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Why “Everything Happens for a Reason” is harmful in grief
When we believe that “everything happens for a reason” or that someone out in the universe felt it was time for us to learn a lesson, it makes it nearly impossible to accept or process the harder emotions of grief: anguish, anger, powerlessness. Because we are told and believe we must have done something to…
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Tips for Supporting Someone in Grief
Despite this world being extraordinarily challenging for a lot of people, there is a significant amount of ignorance surrounding how to be present with people experiencing tough circumstances. This is less an indictment of individuals and more so a judgment of our culture. In a culture that champions “good vibes only,” there isn’t much room…
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What is Deferred Grief?
If you go looking for definitions on Google, prepared to be disappointed, but deferred grief is unprocessed/unfelt grief which can manifest itself in mental illness, substance abuse, anger, and/or violence. Deferred Grief is often passed down generationally until it is processed and felt. Think of it as the cause of generational trauma. A good example…
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The Importance of Keeping Your Gaze Steady
The earthquake in Turkey and Syria that has killed more than 40,000 people can leave you feeling hopeless, sad, and alone. There is a lot of suffering in the world and for many, it’s easy to look away. Looking away offers our minds and bodies the ability to self-protect. Our survival-minded brains think, “If we…
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The New Year Zero
Before Christ (B.C.) and After Death (A.D.). Your first living memory. Your last tragedy. Our lives are all marked by a series of Year Zero events. It’s the point in which life as we knew it is obliterated and a new world order takes its place in our minds. The clock does not turn back…
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