Category: self-talk
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What is “Disenfranchised Grief” and do you have some?
When we think about grief, we often think about the death of someone we or someone we know cared for, but did you know a person does not have to die in order to experience grief? Disenfranchised Grief is defined as “grief that is not usually openly acknowledged, socially accepted, or publicly mourned.” Because Western…
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“Be Curious, Not Judgmental”
Despite frequently being misattributed to Walt Whitman in pop culture, this quote stands alone as profoundly good advice. In a recent reference, Ted Lasso uses the quote as an important lesson about the assumptions we make about others and their consequences. It’s one of my favorite scenes in the whole show and certainly important advice…
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Jesus Wept. Why Can’t We?
In the US, when someone we love dies, there are a myriad of ways we convey the death of a person to those around us: They “passed on.” They are “no longer with us.” They are “in a better place.” It’s all very sterile and removed from the reality of death. The way we speak…
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The Problem with “But it’s not as bad as…”
We’ve all said it. We’re struggling over something and we’re feeling it, but instead of allowing ourselves to sit in the feelings, we remind ourselves that we shouldn’t be complaining. After all, this other person we know (or don’t) is going through something far worse. Right? What we’re actually doing when we normalize this comparison…
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Being Irritable is Completely Normal in Grief
Did you know it’s completely normal to be irritable when you’re coping with grief? Irritability can come from poor sleep patterns, feeling out of control or powerless, feeling frustrated with how your family and friends are responding to your loss, and more. Here are some ways to cope: Irritability is a symptom, not a primary…
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Improving your (grief) self-talk
None of us can change the first reaction we have to ourselves, but we can give our more compassionate side a chance to catch up. We do this by pausing, reflecting, and responding.
Lionheart Grief Coaching 