Category: grief support
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Say Their Names. Tell Their Stories
Saying the names and telling the stories of the people in your life who’ve died is a way you honor the love that remains in your heart for them. So often, we are made to feel uncomfortable in our desire to tell their stories, but speaking of your loved ones is an important part of…
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Grief Always Finds a Way to be Felt
We can try to medicate our grief in a variety of ways, but that only touches the symptoms. Until we open the door to grief and feel the full weight of our loss, it will continue to find open windows to come through in less healthy ways.
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Improving your (grief) self-talk
None of us can change the first reaction we have to ourselves, but we can give our more compassionate side a chance to catch up. We do this by pausing, reflecting, and responding.
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Grief as a series of contractions and expansions
It can be difficult to see the big picture when we’re in grief- one minute we’re doing just fine and in the next, we’re on our knees- metaphorically or literally. It’s easy to wonder if we’re going a little crazy- we may even ask ourselves “why is this happening again?”
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Where Do You Find Support?
Tips for getting the grief support you need The Ring Theory is such a great tool when you are in grief and need support. If you are in any of these circles, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this loss- it is intense and painful. Immediate Family– The people who can support you in your grief…
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The Difference Between “Getting Over It” and Integration
If you’ve been in grief for longer than a few months, you might have started hearing phrases like, “moving on,” “moving forward,” and “getting over it.” You may also hear things like, “they would want you to be happy” or “they’re free of pain now.” What all of these phrases have in common is the…
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Writing Your Feelings Helps
There are SO many studies that show writing what you’re feeling can reduce stress, anxiety, & help alleviate depression. This is a practice you do for yourself, so it’s not required that you’re a good writer or even a good speller. Anyone can do it and reap the benefits. All you need is a quiet…
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Why “Everything Happens for a Reason” is harmful in grief
When we believe that “everything happens for a reason” or that someone out in the universe felt it was time for us to learn a lesson, it makes it nearly impossible to accept or process the harder emotions of grief: anguish, anger, powerlessness. Because we are told and believe we must have done something to…
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Tips for Supporting Someone in Grief
Despite this world being extraordinarily challenging for a lot of people, there is a significant amount of ignorance surrounding how to be present with people experiencing tough circumstances. This is less an indictment of individuals and more so a judgment of our culture. In a culture that champions “good vibes only,” there isn’t much room…
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What is Deferred Grief?
If you go looking for definitions on Google, prepared to be disappointed, but deferred grief is unprocessed/unfelt grief which can manifest itself in mental illness, substance abuse, anger, and/or violence. Deferred Grief is often passed down generationally until it is processed and felt. Think of it as the cause of generational trauma. A good example…
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