Lionheart Grief Coaching

Many of us can identify what activates us. We say to our friends and family, “that is where my wound is” pointing to a behavior or situation that has left us emotionally vulnerable and raw. We tell them so they know to treat us gently- to change their behavior for our well being. This is an imperfect and ultimately incomplete strategy if we want to be free from the wound itself.

While it’s really important that we are able to identify our wounds, we cannot expect the world to navigate around us forever. Stopping after step one only serves to outsource our protective measures, which not only perpetuates old wounds, it can give them a central space in the story we tell ourselves about our identity, making them even harder to uproot later.

In order to heal, we must do the work of addressing the wounds ourselves, but not alone. Never alone. We can do this by participating in different therapeutic modalities (talk therapy, EMDR, EFT, as examples), learning to tell ourselves new stories, and disentangling the actions of people from our past who may have treated us poorly from those we have chosen in our present who love and want only good for us.